What NOT To Say To Pregnant Women
If you’ve ever been pregnant, we bet you’ve heard at least one of these statements.
You look like you’re about to POP!
Do you have twins in there?
I knew you were pregnant because your face looks fuller.
Wow, you’ve got your hands full.
Was it planned?
Should you be eating that?
You’re carrying really low.
A lot of the times, people just don’t have a filter, so look and listen. People comment on what they can see, which normally has something to do with that giant baby bump that is growing by the day. However, having a baby is a stressful (and of course, joyful) time in any soon-to-be parents life. No one needs added judgement, or feelings of being judged.
While these comments may come from a well-intentioned place, with a little more thought, people might make a different choice in words or topics when chatting with pregnant friends, co-workers or family members. We’ve rounded up a short list of things you should never say to a pregnant woman, and offered a few suggestions in what you could say instead.
We believe every pregnant woman is gorgeous, so if you come across a pregnant woman and you feel compelled to comment on her shape, size, and state — make sure you’re sharing a real compliment because all pregnant mommas could use one now and again. Let us lift women up, and also remember that they are more than just ‘mom’ — spoiler alert: pregnant women aren’t balloons or science experiments. They are human beings.
Instead of commenting on size, say something like…
Pregnancy looks good on you. How far along are you?
That’s the perfect bump.
I hope I look as great as you do when I’m pregnant!
If you’re curious and trying to start a conversation, say something like…
Do you know if you’re having a boy or a girl?
When are you due?
Instead of commenting on their overwhelm, comfort them with something like…
You’re handling everything very well!
You’re going to rock motherhood.
Safe reactions when someone announces their pregnancy are…
You’re going to be a wonderful mother.
and lastly, a few go-to’s that every pregnant woman would be happy to hear…
You make pregnancy look effortless.
You are glowing.
You’ve got this, mama!
If you stay positive with your reactions and keep the typical reactions filtered, we promise you’ll offend less. Even if it’s a stranger you’re striking up conversation with at the grocery store, you can have an impact on their mood! Stay away from size, personal questions and any judgement reactions and remember to always let the person who is expecting lead the conversation about their pregnancy. No need to interject in what you’re experience was or what you think unless they ask.